Blind Guides

Croyle novAre you leading with clear vision?

by John Croyle


There are many words to describe the role of a parent: trainer, leader, etc. But when you stop and think about it, our job—no, our privilege—as parents can be summed up into one single word: guide. We are guides for our sons and daughters.

As we look back over the past 40 years, I have no idea how many thousands of speeches I have given. As a matter of fact, a couple of years ago, our son, Brodie, asked me if there was anywhere in the state I haven’t spoken. The truth is probably not. But recently, I did something I’ve never done before: I copied someone else’s talk. It was about being a blind guide.

The speaker laid out eight points that describe accurately what a blind guide looks like. I would like to share with you what this speaker said, and possibly have it change our perspective on being a guide for our children.


1. Blind guides know in their hearts they’re not living right. Every one of us has that built-in conscience meter. We know whether or not we are living correctly. Newsflash: Your mate and your children know you’re not living correctly. You really can’t fool those closest to you.


2. Blind guides pretend they are just fine and give off an air or attitude that shouts, “I’m OK. Sure wish you could be as together as me.” This is really sad, because they think their pretenses are fooling everyone, but in reality, they are fooling no one.


3. Whatever we are, we will reproduce. The bad news is our reproduction will probably be twice as far off course as we are.


4. Blind guides are obligated to gold. They are never satisfied with all the stuff that they have. They always need more; they’re always looking for the next dollar.


5. Blind guides have lost sight of what is really important in life. They always search for that next rush of excitement versus paying attention to the important things—the things of true eternal value.


6. Blind guides are misdirected. They work so hard to keep the outside clean, the inside is filthy, dirty, rotten, and rusted.


7. Blind guides always wear spiritual and emotional make-up. They try to hide their inadequacies, shortcomings, and failures and paint a false picture of perfection.


8. Blind guides are doomed to repeat history. They always focus on the rearview mirror, not the windshield—looking backward versus working toward the future.


If one or more of the aforementioned characteristics fit you, you are either a completely blind or partially blind guide. Is that really the way you want to lead your family? It’s up to you.

If you identify with the descriptions of a blind guide, I would offer these three steps:

1. Relax—It’s easier to get back on track than you think.

2. Identify what you’re doing wrong.

3. Be willing to change.

These three corrections will help you regain your eyesight of what is really important. In closing, perhaps I need to answer the “elephant in the room” question: “Whose speech did you copy and when did he give it?” This relevant and right-on-target speech was given to a group the speaker called blind guides. He gave the talk approximately A.D. 30 and his name was Jesus. My hope is that you and I will look at the list of characteristics outlined in Matthew 23 and really decide whether or not we fit the descriptions. If so, change what needs changing.

Our children are counting on us to see clearly so we can lead them the way we were meant to.

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