Lead The Way


croyle-super-dadGreat leaders know where they’re going.

By John Croyle

Everyone has an opinion on how to raise children. “Professionals” write countless books outlining plans, approaches and ways to help make our children successful. My take on this whole parenting thing: no two children are alike, so there will never be a rock-solid step by step plan that works for every child. However, I do feel like there are certain things that will remain true across the board.

I have had the honor and privilege of meeting many great couples who were fantastic parents, as well as single parents who have done an awesome job raising their children. There are two common traits that stand out in every successful person I have met—whether they are great parents, winning coaches or productive business leaders. 

Simply put, a great leader (parent) knows exactly where they are going and is able to persuade people to go with them.

So, do you know where you are going? I don’t mean just have a general idea of the direction you’re headed. Do you know exactly where you’re going, and are you intentional daily about getting there?  Are you giving your all for that ultimate goal? With so many distractions around us these days, it is imperative that we remain focused on the prize at the end of the race. And if we remain focused, our children will learn from our example.

I Corinthians 9:24 says, “Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it.”  Do you want your children to be participants in the race, or do you want them to receive the prize at the end? 

Do you want your child to survive? Or do you want them to flourish? Just like good is the enemy of better, and better is the enemy of best, I believe that teaching our children to just “get by” is the enemy of true greatness. 

At the end of the day, we all want our children to be great. We want them to be confidently humble, kind, joyful and at peace with themselves. How do we teach that? Be that. Lead them there—not just when you have time, but every minute of every day, lead by example.

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