The good stuff comes in many shapes and forms.

By Paget Pizitz

Paget got a baby deer for Christmas, it might have looked like this, like I needed ANOTHER THING to covet from Paget's life 😉

Growing up, I had a pet deer that lived in the house, ate dinner with our labs and, from time to time, wore hand-me- downs from his big sister. My parents knew they had to do something to appease my desperate need for a sibling.

One afternoon, as I was taking a nap, my father threw open the door, tossed a baby deer onto my bed and said “Merry Christmas, you now have a brother.”  Predictably, I named him Brother, dressed him in Cabbage Patch clothes, and diapered him until he was big enough to use the cat litter box like a normal deer.  After that, most Christmas presents were a blur, as it’s hard to top your father, cloaked in a Santa’s hat, waking you up from a nap with a day-old deer. I hope this Christmas season greets you with that same happiness I felt so many years ago.  I hope you use some self-restraint at the holiday parties and hold off on the fried mac and cheese balls. As my grandmother said, “A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips.” I also hope you don’t get so smashed at your office Christmas party that you go home with the intern. I’m told that is frowned upon.

Two of my closest friends in Washington just got engaged. As a child of divorce, I meet most marriage announcements with a certain skepticism and cynically furrowed brow.  However, this is one union I’m ready to toast. Ivan is a tall, grisly Russian with a penchant for soups and Baptiste Rautureau shoes, which he recently dubbed the Louboutin for men.  Austin is a miniscule but fiery Southern gent working as a statistician at the Department of Homeland Security.

With one having an accent like Mikhail Gorbachev and the other like Paula Dean cookin’ friend chicken and biscuits, they couldn’t be any more different.  Ivan likes to wake up early and “work it out.” Austin likes to stay up late, pop some bubbly and get “real casual.” Yet, despite their vast differences, they are coming up on 10 years together. I recently asked Austin the secret to their success. He told me he has never tried to change Ivan or change himself to please his partner. Relationship expert John Gray says, “Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you’re with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it. Appreciate your differences. You will never see things through your partner’s eyes because you are two entirely different people. You are genetically, physiologically, psychologically and historically different.”

We leave you with an associated press style reminder to be careful with the intern at the holiday partys

For all those canoodling couples out there, this month I want you to think about your partner’s differences and appreciate and embrace them.  Take a lesson from the Russian and the Southern statistician, because after 10 years together, they seem to be doing something right.  And if you do find yourself in a Santa’s hat, cuddled up next to the intern in the copy room, make sure there are no photos to prove it and deny, deny, deny! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!

2 Responses to “Thanks”

  1. Maddog says:

    You would be easier to handle if you were not so sagacious. Way too wise beyond your years. And introspective. Most people aren’t introspective until they are past forty.
    BUT! Can you steer a compass course in a force six? HUH?
    — Maddog

  2. Brenda says:

    Wonderful story! Great advice!
    Happy Holidays to you and yours.

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