Paying for Pleasure


by Lee Ann “Sunny” Brown

Paying for pleasure is one of the oldest transactions in history, and yet some people still seem to find it an unsavory idea. I really don’t see anything wrong with it. In fact, I think it’s a rather nice arrangement. I think you should expect a reasonable experience when you pay a basic price, and then, if you want something a little more, you should have the option to pay for it. I was recently given the opportunity of paying for an extra two inches, and I immediately jumped on it! It might be a guilty pleasure, enjoying an extension like that, but if you have done any flying recently, you probably agree with me, and would have done the same. What do they expect you to do with your legs on those long flights, especially in 6” heels? In a case like that, I am willing to pay an almost obscene amount of money for just two more inches if that add on would make it a much more pleasurable experience. It’s just good old capitalism at work.

The more I started thinking about it, the more I realized that there are many other situations in which I would gladly hand over a few extra dollars in order to get a more satisfying experience. And, I don’t mind tipping people for the extra effort they give either. In fact, I think it’s a great incentive–. I willingly pay a bit more when someone goes the extra mile for me (or inches). Sometimes that extra push makes all the difference in the experience. But now people want you to tip them for doing just the basics! I am expected to pay for an experience in which the other person contributed nothing extra. Sounds like a bad relationship to me. Call me old fashioned, but you shouldn’t expect me to pay you for taking care of myself. I still think you should expect to get what you pay for.

It seems the whole concept of taking care of the customer has been put to bed. How else to explain the expectation that you should take care of your own needs these days? This is a disturbing trend that I think we should put a halt to before that is the only option we have. I am especially leery of those restaurants that want me to carry my own tray, and then, clean my own dishes—not just throw away some paper and plastic—but actually clean dishes! Where is the outrage? I am expected to pay for servicing myself?

That brings me to my most disappointing loss, the disappearance of full service “service” stations? I was more than happy to pay for someone to service me–—I mean, my car. Now, self-serve is the way everybody is going. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against being self-serving. I say “live and let live.” If that’s your thing, more power to you. All I am saying is that I would like to have the option to look under my own hood, or have someone else do it to me—I mean FOR me. I personally don’t like that I am expected to do the pumping! (I always thought that was the man’s job.) I guess there are some women who enjoy that part of it, but again, I would just like for there to be options for us that want to pay somebody else for personal services. This is a service economy after all. I, for one, think it’s great to be able to pay to be serviced. And I especially like it if it’s in my own room, which is why I am all for paying to stay at the better hotels.

And I thought about the grocery store, too. They use to employ all those cute bag boys, and getting bagged was once part of the normal service, and again, now it’s all on you to take care of yourself. It’s just not as much fun anymore. I don’t know about you, but I find that most of the time doing it by your self is overrated.

I say bring back the boys—I am willing to pay for them. Okay, okay, girls, too. Have it your way.

And that’s all I want, to have my way—I’ll gladly pay for it.

One Response to “Paying for Pleasure”

  1. Gina says:

    Great article.

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